Lenny Baptiste

I had so much hatred in me when I was young and being abused in residential school. I actually faced that person when things were happening to me and I would just look at them blank. I never had any emotion. I just looked at them and I thought in my mind ‘I’m going to get you one day. I’m going to find you and I’m going to get you and probably kill you.’ As I was growing up I’d go from town to town. I’ve been to Mexico and all over the place. Every town I would go to I would look in the phone book for their names.

Around 2003, I went to a healing gathering in a residential school. It was one of the first ones they were starting to have. I looked in the phone book— and there was his name. My buddy was with me, and the same thing happened to him with that same person. We were looking at this name and we were just wild. I said, ‘We gotta phone this guy.’ So I phoned and a woman answered. I said, ‘Is this so and so? He used to work here.’

And she says, ‘Ya, that’s him.’ 

I said, ‘I want to see this guy.’ 

She said, ‘Who are you?’

I said my name and there was a silence...a silence I can never forget. Then she said ‘Ya, he’s been waiting for you.’

I asked if it was alright for me to come over. 

She said, ‘Ya, you’re welcome to come over.’

I thought this was strange because the first thing you’re gonna do is call the cops. I went over there, knocked on the door and this woman appeared. I thought I was at the wrong house because in the back living room there were graduation pictures of two Native kids, and this was a Native woman. I thought this couldn’t be right because this was a white guy. I asked if there was a mistake. She said, ‘No, this is him...this is his house.’

I said, ‘Oh no.’ My thought pattern changed because I was dealing with my people. There was a lot of anger.

We got there about 3 o’clock, and he was coming around 6 o’clock. In that time, she told me his story; what happened to him. She said he kept seeing my face and the look on my face and he said that drove him down. He ended up in a psych ward and knew that one day I would look for him and find him.

I was going to kill this guy and so everything had changed. The whole time I had to talk my buddy down because he was worse off than I was. I said, ‘Let’s see this guy’s story.’

So he got back and we saw he was a frail old man. He was shaking. He knew we were coming and he walked in and we looked at him and we sat down and we started to talk and he asked me to forgive him.

All this energy was in me...all this bad energy...and I said, ‘I can’t...I can’t undo that...I can’t forgive you.’ To me, forgiving is like letting go, forgetting, and it’s gone. But this was always going to be there so I couldn’t forgive him. I said, ‘Obviously you’ve worked through it and you’re OK now and now it’s all on me.’

His wife asked me if I could forgive him and I said, ‘I can’t, I can’t forgive.’ It says in the Bible that you forgive but it’s not like that when things happen in your life...you can’t do it. And I said, ‘Well let’s look for another way.’ We looked and looked and she finally came up with a ‘pardon.’ I said, ‘Explain to me what a pardon is.’ She explained to me what a pardon was and I said, ‘I can do that.’ So in my mind and my heart, I gave this guy a pardon. The minute I did it, I could speak without a stutter. It was amazing. It’s what they call a miracle. The stutter was gone. I heard that and it was gone. I could actually speak the way I am speaking now.