Peter Sterios

[My teacher’s] name was Shandor Remete and the style of yoga he taught was hatha yoga. He studied with Iyengar who’s one of three teachers who studied with Krishnamacharya...a master teacher in India around the turn of the 20th century. Shandor was the first male yoga teacher I ever had. And not only was he a male teacher but he was a man, like a man’s man. He had fought in Vietnam, he was in Australian special forces, he was a black belt in karate. There was a masculine presence in him that was unusual for a yoga teacher. I related to that aspect of him initially. It drew me to him because I still had that connection to that masculine kind of adrenaline or testosterone way of being as a man. Shandor seemed to integrate it. He seemed to be able to have his feminine and masculine right up at the table at the same time.

Growing up in the 1970s as a man, testosterone was not appreciated. My role models in elementary, junior high, and high school were all women! I didn’t have a male teacher until I was in 11th grade. So [in] this era of the 1970s it was a pretty clear message to me as a man that having a penis was not an asset in culture. The feminine was more attractive to women. As a teenager, and in my early 20s, my hormones were starting to kick in. I wanted a relationship, and my role model was to be strong in femininity, because I thought women would find that more attractive. I actually struggled through relationships in that 10- year period because although that nurturing aspect is attractive initially, if it’s too much, it gets boring. I found my relationships crumbling and I asked, ‘Why? C’mon I’m a nice guy, I’m a peacemaker...I’m gonna make this all right.’ I didn’t understand; I lacked any masculine principle in my life. And so here was this yoga teacher who had it integrated. I thought, ‘Wow! I’m attracted to this. I don’t have to throw out the bathwater!’ He taught me a lot.

Shandor is misunderstood; he’s a misunderstood guy. A lot of people who haven’t studied with him for as long as I studied with him misunderstand what he’s trying to teach. They only see that macho testosterone-driven side of him. I don’t see that. I see it in balance. And so that education helped me. And hatha yoga—the word ‘hatha’ is really the integration of masculine and feminine—‘Ha Tha.’ It’s solar and lunar principles, integrated.